Personally, I get tired of the rhetoric. Their way or the highway. It seems this is a Western World Invention. It really cuts against the grain and against the very fabric of a Democratic Society. A Civilized Society. A Society in which people are free to choose what they like without being bashed by others. Not so much of a problem in the Philippines. Sex, Politics or Religion, your choice. It is your life, it is up to you.
Some people do not like Facebook, they do not like Twitter, they do not like the latest Phone Technology, they do not like certain Regions of a country, they do not like the Fashion, they do not like Catholics, they do not like the Music, they do not like people engaging in activities that they personally enjoy, they do not like the food, nothing much ever measures up to their expectations. I ask myself, what the hell do these people like? I already concluded that they do not like much of anything! Not even themselves.
My Work In the Mental Health Field
I worked with people with Anger Management problems for over 20 years. Without failure, they must be in control. They like to dish it out but they cannot tolerate the blow back when others speak out and speak up against them. There are always excuses and sometimes, but not many times, they try to walk back their words. I can read and what I read is what I get. Words are like arrows, once released they will hit a mark and those cannot be pulled back.
Living in the Philippines3
I cannot tell you how many times, I have written a post for LinP3, Living in the Philippines 3 Yahoo Group, and after reading it about 3 times, I edited my own post. I think about how others may feel when reading my words. Would it be taken wrongly? If in doubt, I tone it down. However, sometimes, people need to read the blunt word, for after all, they started the brujaja. Often times, they shut down because they know they cannot control themselves or others on the other end of a keyboard. Those who are willing to respond.
This is not a rant but it is reality. We see it everyday! People from the Western World. I have not seen many Filipinos exhibiting such behavior.
Should I Stay or Should I Go
Yesterday, I had two choices. Should I attend the Birthday party of an expat acquaintance or should I attend the Birthday party of a nephew, which would have many close Filipino family and friends in attendance. I know my wife is friends with several wives of expats, who would be in that party. I asked her. She told me to choose which event I wanted to attend, as we could not attend both at the same time, I decided to attend the Filipino Beach Party and I do not regret it. We all had a blast! Nothing can beat that.
I hope to see you one day, somewhere…all around Bacolod.
~ Gary ~